In Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix presents the relationship skills that have helped hundreds of thousands of couples replace confrontation and criticism with a process of mutual support that facilitates healing and growth. This extraordinary practical guide describes the revolutionary technique of Imago Relationship Therapy, which combines a number of disciplines—including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neurosciences, among others—to create a program that transforms conflict into creative tension that deepens connection and renews passion.

In a new chapter and afterword to this 20^th anniversary edition, we learn the key ways in which Imago Therapy—now practiced by more than two thousand therapists worldwide—has evolved since its inception. One development lies in Hendrix’s discovery that helping couples express their anger merely reinforces negative and critical thought patterns rather than defusing them, so today’s Imago therapists have shifted focus toward helping couples eliminate all negativity from their daily interactions. This fundamental change has proven invaluable in couples therapy, and the importance of eliminating negativity has been integrated throughout the text, allowing readers of the 2008 edition to benefit from Hendrix’s ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.

“This book will help any couple find the love they want hidden under all the concealing confusion of a close and intimate relationship. I have seen these principles in application and they work!” —James Hall, MD