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The Book of Forgiving

The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
Paperback Book
Publisher: 
HarperCollins
 | 
April, 2015
ISBN:
9780062203571
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$21.00 CAD
Banyen's Description: 

How do I forgive?

Archbishop Desmond Tutu has witnessed some of the worst crimes people can inflict on others. So wherever he goes, he gets asked this question. This book is his answer. Writing with his daughter, Mpho, an Anglican priest, they lay out the simple but profound truths about the significance of forgiveness, how it works, why everyone needs to know how to grant it and receive it, and why granting forgiveness is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves when we have been wronged.

This book will help you learn the language of forgiveness. Along the way, we will offer meditations, exercises, and rituals to guide and help you as you walk along the path. Some of the exercises will, we hope, offer comfort and solace, as well as inspire your compassion. We imagine that some of the exercises will also challenge you…

We trust that in these pages you can learn the skills and disposition of heart you will need to repair your relationships and in, in some important way, contribute to repairing our world.

Desmond Tutu’s role as the Chair of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a bloodbath. Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation.

After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps of healing:

  • Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm
  • Telling one’s story and witnessing the anguish
  • Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness
  • Renewing or releasing the relationship

Forgiveness is hard work. Sometimes it even feels like an impossible task. But it is only through walking this four-fold path that we can free ourselves of the ties that bind perpetrator to victim in an endless and unyielding cycle of pain and retribution.

The Book of Forgiving will be both a touchstone and a tool.

Forgiveness… is the way we mend tears in the social fabric. It is the way we stop our human community from unraveling… It doesn’t matter whether you are having trouble moving forward from the wrongs that were done to you, or whether you need the courage to admit the wrongs you have done. Forgiveness is nothing less than the way we heal the world. We heal the world by healing each and every one of our hearts. The process is simple, but it is not easy.

Publisher’s Description: 

Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Nobel Peace Prize winner, Chair of The Elders, and Chair of South Africas Truth and Reconciliation Commission, along with his daughter, the Reverend Mpho Tutu, offer a manual on the art of forgivenesshelping us to realize that we are all capable of healing and transformation.

Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a comprehensive bloodbath. Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation.

Each of us has a deep need to forgive and to be forgiven. After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one's story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship. Forgiveness is hard work. Sometimes it even feels like an impossible task. But it is only through walking this fourfold path that Tutu says we can free ourselves of the endless and unyielding cycle of pain and retribution. The Book of Forgiving is both a touchstone and a tool, offering Tutu's wise advice and showing the way to experience forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiving is the only means we have to heal ourselves and our aching world.

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