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The Five Things We Cannot Change

And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them
Paperback Book
Publisher: 
Shambhala
 | 
June, 2006
ISBN:
9781590303085
Quantity: 
1
$17.95 CAD
Banyen's Description: 

Many people feel an underlying sense of dissatisfaction and disappointment in their lives. In this short, thought-provoking book, therapist David Richo distills thirty years of experience to show how our problems are actually rooted in a much deeper issue: our relentless insistence on denying the simple facts of life. By dropping our deep-seated resistance to these givens, we can find liberation and discover the true gifts life has to offer us.

Richo identifies and explores these unavoidable “givens of life”—five facts of life and of relationships that we too often deny:

ª  everything changes and ends

ª  things do not always go according to plan

ª  life is not always fair

ª  pain is part of life, and

ª  people are not loving and loyal all the time.

This book helps us understand that we cannot find real contentment in our lives until we acknowledge and come to terms with these facts. Once we begin to do that, we start to realize that these givens actually offer us profound opportunities. With warmth and poetic flare, Richo invites us to bring new honesty and realism to bear in our lives so that we can find durable, lasting contentment and fulfillment.

He goes on to explain how we can cultivate an “unconditional yes” to these conditions of existence, how we can learn to open, accept, even embrace our lives under any circumstances. Blending Western psychology and Eastern spirituality, and including practical exercises, Richo shows us how to open up to our lives—including what’s frightening, painful or disappointing—and thus uncovering our greatest gifts.

If we have the courage to face life’s unavoidable truths, we will find the grace to love no matter what happens to us… Neither changes, endings, altered plans, unfairness, suffering, disloyalty, or lack of love can stop us from loving. Our yes to such a stunning grace is what our ego always wants to say, since it means the end of being afraid and the beginning of being free.

Also by David Richo is How to Be an Adult in Relationships.

 

Publisher’s Description: 

Why is it that despite our best efforts, many of us remain fundamentally unhappy and unfulfilled in our lives? In this provocative and inspiring book, David Richo distills thirty years of experience as a therapist to explain the underlying roots of unhappinessand the surprising secret to finding freedom and fulfillment.

There are certain facts of life that we cannot changethe unavoidable "givens" of human existence: (1) everything changes and ends, (2) things do not always go according to plan, (3) life is not always fair, (4) pain is a part of life, and (5) people are not loving and loyal all the time. Richo shows us that by dropping our deep-seated resistance to these givens, we can find liberation and discover the true richness that life has to offer. Blending Western psychology and Eastern spirituality, including practical exercises, Richo shows us how to open up to our livesincluding to what is frightening, painful, or disappointingand discover our greatest gifts.Many people feel a fundamental sense of dissatisfaction and disappointment in their lives. While most self-help books offer easy answers and temporary solutions to "problems," Richo shows how problems are actually rooted in a much deeper issue: our relentless insistence on denying the simple facts of life. This sounds hopeless but is in fact far from it. It shows how accepting these truths is liberating and offers a lasting way to happiness. Now in paper.

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