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It's OK That You're Not OK

Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand
Paperback Book
Publisher: 
Sounds True
 | 
October, 2017
ISBN:
9781622039074
Quantity: 
7
$23.50 CAD
Banyen's Description: 

In 2009, on a beautiful sunny day, Megan Devine witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner Matt. “All my professional experience as a therapist felt meaningless,” she writes. “Grief literature is loaded with well-intended advice that can actually worsen and extend someone’s pain. We just don’t know how to handle loss in our culture.” Megan has dedicated herself to helping people find a new way to deal with loss that honors our experience without trying to solve grief.

If we can start to understand the true nature of grief, we can have a more helpful, loving, supportive culture. We can get what we all most want: to help each other in our moments of need, to feel loved and supported no matter what horrors erupt in our lives. When we change our conversations around grief, we make things better for everyone.

With It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan reveals a path for navigating grief and loss not by trying to escape it, but by learning to live inside of it with more grace and strength. Through stories, research, life tips, and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience—loss and grief—we all will face. Here she debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, happy life, replacing it with the skills and tools to help us experience and witness the pain of loss in ourselves and others—so we may meet our grief knowing it as a natural step in the greater journey of love.

Words of comfort that try to erase pain are not a comfort. When you try to take someone’s pain away from them, you don’t make it better. You just tell them it’s not OK to talk about their pain.

 

In order to feel truly comforted by someone, you need to feel heard in your pain. You need the reality of y our loss reflected back to you—not diminished, not diluted. It seems counter-intuitive, but true comfort in grief is in acknowledging the pain, not trying to make it go away.

Publisher’s Description: 
In 2009, on a beautiful sunny day, Megan Devine witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner Matt. All my professional experience as a therapist felt meaningless, she writes. Grief literature is loaded with well-intended advice that can actually worsen and extend someones pain. We just dont know how to handle loss in our culture. Megan has dedicated herself to helping people find a new way to deal with loss that honors our experience without trying to solve grief.

With Its OK That Youre Not OK, Megan reveals a path for navigating grief and loss not by trying to escape it, but by learning to live inside of it with more grace and strength. Through stories, research, life tips, and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face. Here she debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, happy life, replacing it with the skills and tools to help us experience and witness the pain of loss in ourselves and othersso we may meet our grief knowing it to be a natural step in the greater journey of love.

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