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Loving What Is

Four questions that can change your life
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Paperback Book
December, 2003
$22.99 CAD
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An ordinary housewife with three kids, with no pretense to be any kind of exalted teacher, has brought forth a system of self-liberation that has been compared to the teachings of Zen, Socrates, and Alcoholics Anonymous. Byron Katie’s The Work goes well beyond the conventional categories of self-help. By dissolving the stories we tell ourselves, which Katie says are the sources of all suffering, it allows the truth of “what is” to give rise to a life of surprising freedom. The Work can mimic the effect of decades of meditation practice (check it out!), when applied to everyday problems and situations as they arise.

The Work of Byron Katie consists of four questions and what Katie calls a “turnaround,” that moment when one sees that it is one’s thoughts that are the only problem. The four questions are:

ª  “Is it true?”

ª  “Can you absolutely know it is true?”

ª  “How do you react when you believe that thought?”

ª  “Who would you be without this thought?”

Because of Katie’s warm, humorous, yet penetrating way, and because The Work in fact does work so well, it’s catching on.

Written with noted translator Stephen Mitchell, Loving What Is contains carefully selected dialogues between Katie and people doing The Work on problems ranging from an annoying mate to the loss of a child. It also directs you on how to apply The Work to any situation, and it tells the story of Katie’s own awakening, when she woke up on the floor of a halfway house, at a complete dead end in her life, and began to laugh. “There was no me,” she says.

All my rage, all the thoughts that had been troubling me, my whole world, was gone. At the same time, a laughter welled up from the depths and just poured out. This was the birth of awareness: mind reflecting back as itself, seeing itself as everything, surrounded by the vast sea of its own laughter.

“People often ask me if I’m an enlightened being,” she says. “I don’t know anything about that. I am just someone who knows the difference between what hurts and what doesn’t.”

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Out of nowhere, like a fresh breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice on what to believe, comes Byron Katie and what she calls The Work. In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed, and over a ten-year period sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now in Loving What Is you can discover the same freedom through The Work.

The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light. As Katie says, Its not the problem that causes our suffering; its our thinking about the problem. Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point, we can truly love what is, just as it is.

Loving What Is will show you step-by-step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use this revolutionary process for yourself. Youll see people do The Work with Katie on a broad range of human problems, from a wife ready to leave her husband because he wants more sex, to a Manhattan worker paralyzed by fear of terrorism, to a woman suffering over a death in her family. Many people have discovered The Works power to solve problems; in addition, they say that through The Work they experience a sense of lasting peace and find the clarity and energy to act, even in situations that had previously seemed impossible.

If you continue to do The Work, you may discover, as many people have, that the questioning flows into every aspect of your life, effortlessly undoing the stressful thoughts that keep you from experiencing peace. Loving What Is offers everything you need to learn and live this remarkable process, and to find happiness as what Katie calls a lover of reality.

From the Hardcover edition.It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem, says spiritual teacher Byron Katie. Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point, we can truly love what is, just as it is. Katie’s Work offers a simple, straightforward antidote to the suffering we unnecessarily create for ourselves.

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