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Romancing The Shadow

A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital, Authentic Life
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Paperback Book
February, 1999
$24.00 CAD
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“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious.” —C.G. Jung

Within each woman and man, the dim cavern of the unconscious holds our forbidden feelings, secret wishes, and creative urges. Over time, these “dark” forces take on a life of their own, forming an intuitively recognizable figure—the shadow. A recurring theme in literature and legend, the shadow is like an invisible twin, a stranger that is us, yet is not us. When it acts out in the public domain, we witness our leaders, like hero-villains, fall from grace into scandal. Closer to home, we may feel overcome with rage, obsession, and shame or succumb to self-destructive lies, addiction, or depression. These appearances of the shadow introduce us to the Other, a powerful force that defies our efforts to tame and control it.

Romancing the Shadow is the first practical guide to discovering and working with the shadow. Connie Zweig and Steve Wolf, innovators in the use of shadow work in psychotherapy, have helped hundreds of clients in their encounters with the dark side. Seeing it—meeting the shadow—is a first step. Learning to live with it—romancing the shadow—is a lifelong challenge.

With shadow work, we cultivate a deeper self-knowledge and authenticity. When we identify family shadow patterns, we move toward cultivating family soul. When we untangle romantic projections, we begin to build the soul of a relationship. When we face descent at midlife and meet the underworld shadow, we reclaim the unlived life of the soul. And when we retrieve our lost vitality and creative fertility—the gold in the dark side—we nurture the hungry soul.

The authors weave together the perspectives of Carl Jung and James Hillman, the Greek myths, and universal archetypal images with revealing stories from their clients’ lives that trace the development of the shadow from its birth in the family crucible to its emergence in every aspect of adult life. Love, sex, marriage, friendship, money, work, and aging: Zweig and Wolf explore the shadow’s workings in life’s most sensitive arenas as well as its manifestation in today’s most difficult social issues—violence, divorce, child abuse, racism, and workaholism.

They show how the shadow is part of the natural order of who we are. Not a problem to be solved, it is a mystery to be faced and lived.

Connie Zweig also edited the seminal anthology Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature.

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Beneath the social mask we wear every day, we have a hidden shadow side: an impulsive, wounded, sad, or isolated part that we generally try to ignore, but which can erupt in hurtful ways. As therapists Connie Zweig and Steve Wolf show in this landmark book, the shadow can actually be a source of emotional richness and vitality, and acknowledging it can be a pathway to healing and an authentic life. "Romancing the shadow"--meeting your dark side, beginning to understand its unconscious messages, and learning to use its powerful energies in productive ways--is the challenging and exciting soul work that Zweig and Wolf offer in this practical, rewarding guide.

Drawing on the timeless teachings of Carl Jung and compelling stories from their clinical practices, Zweig and Wolf reveal how the shadow guides your choices in love, sex, marriage, friendship, work, and family life. With their innovative method, you can uncover the unique patterns and purpose of your shadow and learn to defuse negative emotions; reclaim forbidden or lost feelings; achieve greater self-acceptance; heal betrayal; reimagine and re-create relationships; cultivate compassion for others; renew creative expressions; and find purpose in your suffering.

The shadow knows why good people sometimes do bad things. Romancing the shadow and learning to read the messages it encodes in daily life can deepen your consciousness, imagination, and soul.

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