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Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, revised edition

Relationship Repair in a Flash
Paperback Book
Publisher: 
Tarcher
 | 
January, 2013
ISBN:
9780399162008
In stock now: 
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$29.00 CAD$23.20 CAD20%
Banyen's Description: 

Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing.

A psychotherapist with decades of experience counseling couples, Nancy Dreyfus hit upon the revolutionary practice outlined in this book during a couples-therapy session in which a wife’s unrelenting criticism of her husband was causing him to become more and more emotionally withdrawn. In the midst of this, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, “Talk to me like I’m someone you love” and gestured to the husband that he should hold it up. He did and within seconds the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged. Dreyfus was startled, then intrigued, and then motivated to create a tool that could help others.

This elegant book features more than one hundred of Dreyfus’s “flash cards for real life”—written statements that express what we wish we could communicate to the person we love, but either can’t find the right words or the right tone in which to say it. The statements include:

*Taking responsibility: “I realize I’m overreacting. Can you give me a minute to get sane again?”

*Apologizing: “I know I’ve really hurt you. What can I do to help you trust me again?”

*Loving: “You are precious, and I get that I haven’t been treating you like you are.” 

Each statement is accompanied by “field notes” from the author that explain when, why, and how to use the statement as well as real-life stories, from her practice, of couples who found it helped restore healthy communication.

This revised edition features two new sections—one on making love and another on deepening trust—containing over 25 new "flash cards for real life."

Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love is also available as a deck of 64 “flash cards.”

Publisher’s Description: 

"The most crucial relationship advice book since Men Are from Mars." Erin Meanly, Glamour.com

Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing. Couples therapist Nancy Dreyfus hit upon this revolutionary practice during a particularly angry couples-therapy session in which a wife's unrelenting criticism of her husband was making him more and more emotionally withdrawn. Suddenly, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, "Talk to me like I'm someone you love," and gesturing to the husband that he should hold it up. He did, and within seconds, the familiar powerdifferential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged.

This revised edition features two new sectionsone on making love and another on deepening trustcontaining over 25 new "flash cards for real life," written statements that hold the power to express what we wish we could say to the person we love but for which we can't find either the right words or the right tone in which to say them. Each of the statements in this book is accompanied by "field notes" from the author that explain when, why, and how to use the statement, as well as real-life stories from the author's practice.

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