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What We Say Matters

Practicing Nonviolent Communication
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Paperback Book
Publisher: 
Rodmell
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October, 2009
ISBN:
9781930485242
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$24.95 CAD
Banyen's Description: 

For yoga teacher Judith Lasater and her husband, mediator Ike Lasater, language is a spiritual practice based on giving and receiving with compassion. In What We Say Matters, they offer new and nurturing ways of communicating. Long-term students of yoga and Buddhism, the authors here blend the yoga principle of satya (truth) and the Buddhist precept of right speech with Marshall Rosenberg’s techniques of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in a fresh formula for promoting peace at home, at work, and in the world.

The heart of any spiritual practice begins with remembering at all times to be present with my inner states. This remembrance is crucial, because it is the foundation for understanding this important teaching: I am not my thoughts. I have thoughts, but they are a manifestation of my being and are not who I am. One of the best ways to remember that I am not my thoughts is to cultivate the habit of being present first with myself and then with my speech, both internal and external. The way I say things reifies my beliefs, especially the belief that I am my thoughts.

The authors offer practical exercises to help readers in any field learn to diffuse anger; make requests rather than demands or assign blame; understand the difference between feelings and needs; recognize how they strategize to get needs met; choose connection over conflict; and extend empathy to themselves and others. Their writing is deeply personal, punctuated by their accounts of trial and error, success and failure, laughter and challenge, particularly in learning to practice these techniques with their three teens. Above all, this book is a guide to interacting with empathy in any situation, based on yoga, Buddhist, and nonviolent principles.

Judith Lasater’s many books include Relax and Renew and Living Your Yoga.

 

Publisher’s Description: 

For yoga teacher Judith Hanson Lasater and her husband, mediator Ike K. Lasater, language is a spiritual practice based on giving and receiving with compassion. In "What We Say Matters, " they offer new and nurturing ways of communicating. Long-term students of yoga and Buddhism, the authors here blend the yoga principle of "satya" (truth) and the Buddhist precept of right speech with Marshall Rosenberg's groundbreaking techniques of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in a fresh formula for promoting peace at home, at work, and in the world. The authors offer practical exercises to help readers in any field learn to diffuse anger; make requests rather than demands or assign blame; understand the difference between feelings and needs; recognize how they strategize to get needs met; choose connection over conflict; and extend empathy to themselves and others.

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