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You Are Not What You Think

The Egoless Path to Self-Esteem and Generous Love
Paperback Book
Publisher: 
Shambhala
 | 
December, 2015
ISBN:
9781611802856
In stock now: 
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$20.95 CAD
Banyen's Description: 

A healthy ego is necessary to achieving our goals, to building healthy relationships, and to leading a satisfying and meaningful life. But an ego that gets too big—that becomes egotism—can actually inhibit all those wonderful possibilities. In this luminous guide, David Richo offers wisdom from psychology, myth, and spiritual traditions to show us how to let go of the kind of ego that causes suffering for ourselves and others. As a wonderful result, we gain self-confidence and find new ways to love too. It’s not a matter of getting rid of ego but of seeing through it. When we learn to do that, Dave says, we’ll discover the core of indestructible goodness in our enlightened nature. Then, when we see “big ego” expressed in ourselves or others, we begin to regard it with compassion rather than disdain. We are truly, Dave shows, not what we think but much, much more.

Our work is to tame our ego, not to kill it off… We want neither to eliminate it nor to hold on to it; we simply want to be free of its grip and out of its clutches. If we learn to do that, we can then take all that ego has gathered and gained to puff itself up and we can reinvest that into healthy self-esteem and generous love… When this happens we finally emerge from the shame that built that fortress in which we were condemned to hide.

“How we relate to our ego—the sense of 'I'—determines our suffering and our freedom. David Richo does a brilliant job unpacking the unhealthy versions if ego that confine us. Through psychological and Buddhist wisdom teachings and a range of powerful practices and meditations, we are guided beyond the identity of separate self to the loving awareness that is our deepest essence.” —Tara Brach, author of True Refuge

“David Richo uses concepts from neuroscience, psychology, and Buddhism to show us how to make a friend of our ego, that oddly obstreperous, often tyrannical—but ultimately useful—chimera."—Norman Fischer, author of Training in Compassion

Publisher’s Description: 

You and your ego: how to develop a healthy sense of self without becoming an egotistand how to see through that sense of self for the happiness of yourself and others.

How can you build the healthy ego necessary to be effective in lifeyet avoid the kind of egotism that makes people dislike you? Don't worry; Dave Richo has the answers. His new book shows you how to navigate the tricky waters between egotism and selflessness in a way that avoids both extremes and makes you much more effective and loving. The key is to acknowledge your ego and to be kind to it, before you ultimately learn to let it go. As with all Dave's books, this one is full of examples from myth and religion, with plenty of exercises and practical advice.

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